Matthew West’s song, Forgiveness contains the lyrics:
It’s the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those that don’t deserve
It’s the opposite of how you feel
When the pain they caused is just too real
It takes everything you have just to say the word…
Sharla Fritz’ Bible Study, Divine Design, designates a day of study discussing forgiveness. She suggests guidelines to follow when choosing to quash “stored anger which chafes souls and erases joy” and when casting aside resentment which “rubs past hurts into minds and memories.”
First – Refuse to repeat the matter. Stop bringing up the hurt. Make it no longer a part of any conversation.
Second – Stop brooding about the error. Eliminate the bitterness. Do not let the pain dominate your thoughts. This step may require the assistance of Christian counseling. Choose to experience the freedom of forgiveness.
Third – Seek God’s Word.
Try Colossians 3:12-13 which addresses as God forgives so should we.
Look up Mark 11:25 which concerns our relationship with God.
Hebrews 12:15 mentions that bitterness is a poison.
Romans 12:19 states vengeance is God’s.
God can bring good out of terrible: Roman 8:28.
You’re not alone in your pain: Hebrews 13:5.
See Ephesians 4:31-32 for Christ-like qualities to guide your walk with God.
Fourth – Pray. Demonstrate God’s love by praying for the offender and for yourself. Pray. Pray. Pray some more.
Fifth – Kneel at God’s table and receive forgiveness from Our Heavenly Father. Exhale as you confess your sins and know you are absolved of them. Let God’s love envelop you and ease your pain.
Ms. Fritz offers an ending prayer: Giver of grace, take the bitterness from my heart and cover it with love. Untangle my thoughts of anger and help me to leave them in the past. Make me a conduit of Your grace to the people in my life. Amen.
In His Grip,